Creative Headlands Center For The Arts Wedding P

Creative Headlands Center For The Arts Wedding P

Creating a unique wedding celebration with thoughtful details truly makes the big day that much more special. Jenna and Jay put so much care and detail into their multi-cultural Headlands Center for the Arts wedding. Not only did they have a personal, hybrid ceremony, but with help of their wedding planner Heartthrob Weddings and Events, they also added a champagne cocktail hour with a remarkable view of the Golden Gate Bridge. 

On top of stunning views and personalized ceremonies, Jenna and Jay created stunning wedding favors—a pinch bowl with incense—and hand-dyed their napkins to match their wedding color palette. Keep scrolling to see this absolutely creative wedding as captured by Eve Rox

The Couple:

Jenna and Jay

The Wedding:

Headlands Center for the Arts, San Francisco, California

Advice for Nearlyweds

Get a wedding planner! Even if you think you don’t need one. We were so excited to make our day feel really special that we were initially hesitant to give up control. It turned out that there were so many details to think through that having a planner is what ended up making it possible for us to focus where it mattered most to us. Oh and start writing your vows early!

Choosing A Headlands Center For the Arts Wedding

We exhaustively searched and there were times where we wanted to just settle for something easy.  At the last minute, we found the perfect place. Its blend of history and scenic beauty gave it a romantic and dreamy vibe. Plus, the fact that it’s a non-profit that supports local artists enabled us to give back to our community and choose a place that was within our budget.

Personalized Ceremony

We worked with friends and family who were members of two communities that are really important to us—Jewish and queer communities—to create a highly personal hybrid ceremony that blended tradition with our personal values.

DIYed Wedding Details

We DIYed our favors and hand-dyed our napkins with support from friends. For the favors, we were lucky to have the help of a friend and professional ceramicist, Jo Boyer Ceramics. Jo generously donated their time, know-how, and supplies to help Jay and another friend make pinch pots with our wedding date stamped on the bottom for every guest. We packed these bowls in bags with incense from another friend, Rituals Incense.We love that everyone could light them with intention and bring the sense of love from our wedding day with them.

The Wedding Team:

Photography – Eve Rox
Event Planning – Heartthrob Weddings and Events
Venue – Marin Headlands Center for the Arts
Floral Design, Layout + Design – Tropic of Flowers
Catering – Katie Powers
Desserts – Miette and Anthony’s Cookies
DJ – Chelsea Starr
Invitation Design – Mike Wilcox
Makeup Artist – Elizabeth Windust
Hair Styling – Love and Wolves Co Beauty
Rentals – Bright Rentals
Transportation – Swoop
Favors – Jo Boyer Ceramics & Rituals Incense


Congratulations to Jenna and Jay on their beautifully creative Headlands Center for the Arts wedding. Major shout out to Heartthrob Weddings and Events for sharing this day with us. If you’re looking for a way to make your wedding day more personal, check out these nine ways to personalize your wedding and our guide to planning a unique wedding.


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Handfasting ceremony script with ring exchange and vows P

Handfasting ceremony script with ring exchange and vows P

Photos by Aniko Levai Photography

Denise and Lee had a rustic goth enchanted garden wedding at The Poe Museum, and their wedding featured handfasting ceremony with beautiful handfasting cords. If you’re curious about handfasting, Offbeat Bride has a massive archive dedicated to handfasting ceremonies and weddings, but today we’re going to share Denise and Lee’s handfasting ceremony script. If you’re thinking of doing a handfasting ceremony, this script will give you ideas for your vows and ceremony wording. This ceremony script uses the words bride and groom to reflect Denise and Lee’s wedding, but of course the language could easily be tweaked for a wedding with folks who identify as LGBTQ or nonbinary.

Wedding ceremony introduction

Today, this couple comes before us to enter into the sacred covenant of marriage, vowing to be partners through the trials and triumphs of their shared life.

They are declaring to each other and to all of us present that they will be by each other’s side, no matter what life brings their way.

The marriage ceremony has been an important feature of nearly every culture, religion, generation, and society.

We have thousands of important moments that happen throughout
our lives, but this one is regarded as one so meaningful that we
acknowledge its special status by sharing it with others.

Why this moment?

Because, despite all our unique differences, love is what we all share.
Love is the great unifier — our one universal truth.
No matter who we are, where we have come from, what we believe,
we know this one thing . . . love is what we’re doing right.

Love is why you both are standing here. That’s why you all have been invited to watch them stand up here at this moment and be reminded that the ability to love or to be loved unconditionally is the most precious gift a person can give or they can receive by someone.

Handfasting ceremony

As I ask the two of you these questions, please respond together, making your promises before this circle of witnesses.

[Bride] and [Groom], will you honor and respect one another?
(We will)

Will you support and assist each other in times of pain and sorrow?
(We will)

Will you be present in the difficult and challenging times so that you may grow strong in this union?
(We will)

Will you share each other’s laughter and joy and look for the brightness and fun in life and the positive in each other?
(We will)

Is it your intention to bring peace and harmony into your everyday ways of communicating?
(It is)

And when you falter, will you have the courage and commitment to remember these promises and take a step back towards one another with an open heart?
(We will)

Are you willing now and always to make this commitment to each other?
(We do)

This cord represents the marital bond.
It is strong enough to hold you together during times of struggle yet flexible enough to allow for individuality and personal growth.

Please join hands.

And now, as your hands are bound together, I ask you to declare your vows to each other, repeating after me.

Handfasting Vows

[Groom], please repeat after me as you look at [Bride].

I, [Groom]
Promise you, [Bride]
That I will be your husband from this day forward,
To love and respect you,
To support and to hold you,
To make you laugh
And to be there when you cry,
To softly kiss you when you are hurting,
And to be your companion and your best friend,
On this journey that we will now make together as one.

[Bride], please repeat after me as you look at [Groom].
I, [Bride]
Promise you, [Groom]
That I will be your wife from this day forward,
To love and respect you,
To support and to hold you,
To make you laugh
And to be there when you cry,
To softly kiss you when you are hurting,
And to be your companion and your best friend,
On this journey that we will now make together as one.

As your hands are now bound together, so shall your lives be bound as one.

Keep this cord as a visible reminder of your promise to one another, and let no one unbind it as long as you both shall live.

Ring exchange

Who has the rings?

We all understand the gesture that you are now making. To reach out to someone and be acknowledged, held, and loved is what we all want. Taking the hand of the one who loves you is the symbol of that unspoken bond.

You fell in love by chance, but you’re here today because you’re making a choice. You both are choosing each other. You’ve chosen to be with someone who enhances you, who makes you think, makes you smile, and makes every day brighter.

Every day, as you look down, you will see a brief flash of light, a sparkle as the ring place on your finger today will shine. It will remind you, again and again, over and over, of your promise to your loved one. Every time you take hands, you will feel that wedding ring on your partner’s hand, and you will both be reminded again in turn.

It will always be with you, visible, worn openly, and with pride. It will say to the world that someone loves me enough to make me a promise to share a life.

[Groom], please take [Bride]’s hand, place the ring on her finger, and repeat after me as you look at her: I give you this ring in token and pledge of my abiding love.
[Bride], please take [Groom]’s hand, place the ring on his finger, and repeat after me as you look at him: I give you this ring in token and pledge of my abiding love.

May you enjoy a lifetime of love and peace, happiness, and prosperity.

Go in peace. Live in joy

By the authority vested in me by the [State or Region], I now pronounce you husband and wife.

[Groom], you may now kiss your bride!

I now present Mr. and Mrs. [Last Name]!

“Apache wedding blessing” isn’t even Native American P

“Apache wedding blessing” isn’t even Native American P

A horse ranch wedding with a horseback ceremony and DIY for days
Photo by Northfern from this wedding.

If you’re looking for wedding readings, you may have come across this one in your searches. It’s often referred to as Apache wedding blessing or sometimes a Navajo wedding blessing, or Native American wedding prayer, or any number of other similar names. All of these names are inaccurate, but I’ll get into that later:

Now you will feel no rain,
for each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth for the other.
Now there is no more loneliness.
Now you are two persons,
but there is only one life before you.
May your days together be good and long
upon the earth.

While this piece of writing expresses a lovely sentiment, and you’re totally allowed to love it and use it at your wedding… you do need to know this: the reading has nothing to do with Apaches or Navajo Native American culture at all.

The reading is from a 1950 Jimmy Stewart movie called Broken Arrow, based on a 1947 novel called Blood Brothers. The words have no indigenous roots at all — they’re a mid-20th century white dude’s fantasy. This is what’s known as “Fakelore.”

To be blunt: this reading has nothing to do with Native American culture at all, other than that it’s something that a cisgender white dude imagined Native Americans might possibly say.

Now, do you want to use a poem from an old Western movie in your wedding? Maybe you do, maybe you don’t. If you do, that’s cool!

But if you don’t, but you want something with a similar sentiment, lemme see what I can do. I’m just some lady in Seattle, but I’m not going to create some fakeloric myth to make this reading seem like anything more than what it is. I don’t believe in pretending to be anything that I’m not, so let’s just call this…

One human’s hope

Now the raindrops will not sting your skin,
for you can each be the soul umbrella the other seeks.
Now the cold will not chill you,
for your love can warm each other’s bodies and minds.
Now that very human experience of loneliness can ease,
For while you are still two people,
you’re sharing this path of marriage as one being.
May your time together be united in gratitude and grace
for as long this walk may last.

There. FIXED IT.

“Apache wedding blessing” isn’t even Native American P

16 unique recessional songs for your offbeat wedding P

Photo by Meagan Rinck

If you want to be traditional, you’ll have “Here Comes the Bride” (aka Wagners’ “Bridal Chorus“) for the processional at your wedding and Mendelssohn’s “Wedding March” for the recessional.

But if you don’t want to be traditional, we’ve got ideas for you! As an Offbeat Bride, you have plenty of alternatives to “Here Comes the Bride.” But what about finding a unique recessional song? You don’t want Mendelssohn, but it’s not as though there are lots of obvious alternative choices for recessional songs.

In fact, what’s a recessional song?

When you come into your wedding space, you process. This part of the wedding often gets a lot of thought. Will someone walk you down the aisle, and if so, who, and how do you want to finesse the giving away symbolism? Will you walk to your partner or with your partner? Will you even walk? Maybe a shimmy is more your style.

But when you recess, you’re walking out of the space. This will traditionally be a walk back down the aisle with your partner, out of the ceremony venue.

Not every wedding will have an actual recessional, though. You might stroll to the other side of the room and sit down for dinner, you might stay and dance, or you might move on to a special unity ceremony. This might be the time to mingle, and you may be planning to stay in one room till the cows come home.

If you’re going to recess, though, a unique recessional song or instrumental should create just the right feeling.

You want something happy — even triumphant — that wraps up the ceremony. This should be music that lets guests know that it’s time to head outside so they can throw rice or blow bubbles, or whatever you have cooked up for your departure. The tempo should allow an energetic pace.

That doesn’t mean you have to have organ and trumpets. The list of recessional songs below includes sweet songs, grand symphonic pieces, and great dance music. One of them will be just right for kicking off your life together with the support of your friends and family.

16 unique recessional songs

  1. “Accidentally in Love,” Counting Crows
  2. “Love You in the Fall,” Paul Westerberg
  3. “Love You Tll the End,” The Pogues
  4. “Here In Your Arms,” by Hellogoodbye
  5. Legend of Zelda Main Theme
  6. “Victory Fanfare,” from Final Fantasy XII
  7. “I Believe in a Thing Called Love,” The Darkness
  8. “Glad All Over,” by the Dave Clark Five
  9. “Bittersweet Symphony,” by the Verve
  10. “Do You Realize,” by Flaming Lips
  11. “Raiders March,” by John Williams
  12. “Best Friend,” by Weezer
  13. “All I Want is You,” from Juno by Barry Louis Polisar
  14. The Muppet Show theme
  15. “Dog Days Are Over,” by Florence + The Machine
  16. “Wake Up,” by Arcade Fire

More recessional inspiration

recessional songs
Photo by Steven Rosen Photography

The happy couple can stride out together, flanked by their guests tossing birdseed or confetti, and drive away to start their honeymoon. But that’s not the only option. Check out some real weddings that did something different:

  • One Aussie couple put on skis for their recessional.
  • A Seattle couple handed out kazoos and asked their guests to play along to their Star Wars theme recessional.
  • A Canadian couple got the whole wedding party to dance out with them.
  • A Denver couple brought in bagpipes for their recessional.
  • At a Pennsylvania amusement park, one couple rode out of their wedding on a haunted house ride.
  • A New Jersey couple paraded their way out of the venue with a marching band.
2021 Spring Wedding Guest Dresses P

2021 Spring Wedding Guest Dresses P

Image by The Teagues

The weather is warming up which means wedding season is upon us. If you’ve got a wedding to attend but don’t have anything to wear, don’t stress. We’ve rounded up our favorite spring wedding guest dresses. From floral prints to pastel hues to wrap dresses with flutter sleeves, get ready to add one—or more!—of these spring wedding guest dresses to your online shopping cart.

Short Spring Wedding Guest Dresses

When we think of spring, we think of lots of sunshine and warmer temps. That means shorter dresses in pastels and floral prints. However, we know that this isn’t always the case and that it can still be pretty frigid well into early summer. If you fall in love with a short dress but are worried about being cold, pair it with a scarf, jacket, or tights.

Dress The Population Catalina Fit & Flare Cocktail Dress

Reformation Colleen Dress

Bardot Triple Frill Long Sleeve Minidress

Fraiche by J Colorblock Tie Waist Long Sleeve Dress

Lulu’s Much Love Swiss Dot Long Sleeve Tie-Front Mini Dress

English Factory Solid Minidress

Dress The Population Elisa Floral Applique Embroidered Fit & Flare Dress

Saylor Zulu Minidress

Believe It Or Knot Long-Sleeve Tie-Front Dress

Midi-Length Spring Wedding Guest Dresses

Midi dresses have taken the fashion world by storm and they come in a wide variety of colors and prints that are perfect for springtime. Plus the extra length gives you a little more warmth while still looking chic.

Dress The Population Nicole Sweetheart Neck Cocktail Dress

WAYF Beatrix Bustier Midi Dress

Euphoria Ruffle Sleeve Dress

Lulu’s Simply Stunning Satin Floral Jacquard Midi Dress

Adelyn Rae Carleigh Floral Chiffon Long Sleeve Wrap Dress

Reformation Juliette High Slit Sundress

Lulu’s Always Beside Me Swiss Dot Tiered Midi Dress

Lulu’s Evalina Floral Print Mock Neck Midi Dress

ASTR the Label Square Neck Bubble Sleeve Dress

Know Your Heart Polka Dot Ruffled Midi Dress

Elliatt Reception Dress

Long Spring Wedding Guest Dresses

If you’re worried about being too chilly and don’t feel like layering, these long spring wedding guest dresses are great options. They still come in colorful florals and light colors perfect for the season, while protecting you from the cold weather.

ASTR the Label Floral Print Dress

Lulu’s I’m All Yours Ruffled Maxi Dress

Lulu’s Lost In The Moment Maxi Dress

Billabong Dreamer Floral Dress

WAYF The Bea Faux Wrap V-Neck Dress

Moriah Satin Wrap Maxi Dress

Spring Wedding Guest Jumpsuits

Who says you have to wear a dress to a wedding? Let’s face it, jumpsuits are way more comfortable and allow you to really get down on the dance floor. Opt for pinks, blues, and greens to tie in the seasons trends.

Vince Camuto Tie Front Wide Leg Jumpsuit

Eliza J Ruffle Sleeve Crepe Jumpsuit

Lulu’s Call for Me Faux Wrap Jumpsuit

Love these options and want to add some fun accessories? Check out these cool jackets that will keep you warm!


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